Question about a co-worker?

I'm a guy and have been at this company for 5 months now and something sort of bugs me. There's this female co-worker that never talks to me, we work next to each other. I share an office with my boss and she always comes in and talks to him and totally ignores me.



She doesn't even say good morning to me so I quit saying good morning to her too. Now, what really bugs me is this. The only time she talks to me is to help her do something. IE. carry a box for her, or some other physical job. Or when she has a computer question (I work in the IT dpt.) other than that, we pass each other on the hall and she just looks straight ahead as if I'm not there.



A week ago, I wanted to be nice and treated co-workers for delivery chinese food, she heard about it and invited herself in and told me what she wanted. I had no plans of treating her, fine. I wanted to be nice I picked up lunch.



Should I tell her that she is only using me next time she needs help with something? and say no!Question about a co-worker?
Wow. She really does sound clueless about the basic niceties of social interaction -- she's over-trumped the IT department. (I'm kidding, kidding -- I love IT folk. I've been told repeatedly I seriously need an IT boyfriend... ever since I got Windows Vista,)



You definitely need to notify her about her social gaucheries, but you want to emerge from this encounter smelling like a saint. First, gauge her impact on other people. "Hey -- do you have any idea why Marilyn ignores me unless she needs something? Did I do something to make her mad?"



This is a crucial first step. There's nothing worse than letting something eat at you until you erupt in righteous indignation, only to find out poor Marilyn is autistic, or that she is basically sleep-walking through work because her child is dying. Ouch. Plus, your apparent concern that you may have inadvertently offended her makes you look like Mr. Sympathetic. You also get a better idea of her motivations (is it men she ignores, or lower-level employees, or red-heads?), garner support for your cause, and, if you can stand it, have half the women in the office earnestly advising you on strategy.



So how far have you already gotten with this step? What鈥檚 the feedback?



Let me know if you want to hear Step 2.
I think its a good idea to talk with her about it when you get the chance. I know myself, I'm shy and it takes me awhile to warm up to people. But I certainly would not invite myself to a paid lunch either.Question about a co-worker?
the next time she asks you to help her just act like you don't hear her and leave the room.



what goes around comes around
Find out first what her relationship is with the boss. You might just want to be nice to the b***. This sound a lot like situations I have found myself in.



there aer some people who play a hardcore game. She may dislike you for some, probably stupid, reason. It also sounds like she is sucking up to the boss. I would be very carefull of getting in her way.



If the boss is a good one, and sees through her, you should be OK, if not, start exploring options.Question about a co-worker?
Too bad you couldn't slip a fortune into her fortune cookie:

"You will stop being creepy to your male co-worker"........



Wow, she really is something else....how funny that she happened to hear that you were treating the co-workers to Chinese....but she refuses to hear much else.



You need to let her know that you are only there to answer a work related question, that you will never treat her to food again, and that you're too busy to carry boxes for her. The more stand-offish you are to her, the sooner she'll get the message that you've had it with her. I'll bet after you keep this up, all of a sudden becomes chatty with you.....don't let her, and don't give her the time of day!!! She's got serious issues. You sound like a nice guy....does she behave this way with others? I'll bet she does. Definitely, just say no!!
She is a stuck up **** however, until you know her position be careful around her, she is the type to cause trouble if she wants to so beware and just keep on ignoring her but in future don't buy any more lunches for everyone.
I think the Chinese food order would have been your cue to say something to her about it. I guess one day when its quiet just turn to her and ask her why is she so cold to you?

The obvious could be that she is just a self-centered person. OR and this could be out there, but she could find herself attracted to you and as not to tempt herself she has decided to only speak to you when it is absolutely necessary. The reasons behind that could be a number of things, like she is in a relationship or she has something against office romances. Or she could just be self-centered like I said before. If you do decide to confront her next time she asks you for a favor, listen to what she says before you say no to her favor.