Do I have a right to be angry/annoyed?

It's Christmas Eve. I work tomorrow 3-11, so I will be missing turkey dinner. Tonight we decided to order in Chinese food as our little 'dinner'. Waiting for our delivery, a friend of my bf dropped off pictures and decided to stay and hang out. Our delivery arrived and his friend is still here and I'm annoyed because I'd rather not eat with him sitting there with us, eating nothing. I'm pretty pissed right now. I feel like the night has been a little ruined, I'm waiting to eat and now I'm downstairs on yahoo while they're upstairs! Am I being immature? We're adults here (25, 26 and like 30 ish).Do I have a right to be angry/annoyed?
Can you not read what is happening here. This young man is either very lonely, hasn't anywhere to go this time of the year and/or he really likes the company of you and your bf.



Be generous with your attitude. There are always reasons that we do not pick up on and at this time of the year, we should try and give out as much love and attention, to those that maybe, don't receive it from anywhere else.



Being mad and that word you used, is really your choice. You can either be nice about it and make him feel welcome or you can be miserable and make your bf unhappy and make yourself miserable at the same time.



What would be the better choice?



Have a very happy Christmas.
Did you offer him to share in your meal?



Well if he declined then what's the problem, eat, drink and be merry. I wouldn't have been annoyed, where's the love?



Or, your husband can say "Hey you know that I love you right?but I wanted this evening to be with the family" If he doesn't get the hint have the kids throw him out.Do I have a right to be angry/annoyed?
Thats something I would do. Maybe Im a bit immature as well. Oh well. Screw them.
i guess its understandable



but try to enjoy yourslef since you have to work tommrrowDo I have a right to be angry/annoyed?
build a bridge lady and get over it, if u were my gf id bend u over my knee and slap that a s s
no just keep your distance i do it all the time.
Ye you do have the right. You want to sit there in peace as you have work then someone comes and interupts you. If he knows your situation and you are about to eat then he should leave.
In the spirit of the holidays, if for no other reason, why not offer to have him stay and eat with you two?



You celebrate Christmas... but you certainly aren't doing what "Jesus would do"....



Seems contrary to the holiday...
Tell him you have plans tonight and its time for him to go. Be assertive or your night will be ruined.
hell yah i would be pissed he should have called first

i would ignore him and eat my food anyway and girl call you boss and tell him ur sick u cant work....thats nno fair
why don't you bee a good hostess %26amp; offer your guest some food?
I would be mad

why don't you tell themm how you feel

they will undurstand

i think good luck and merry christmas
I would be pretty mad, especially if you won't be having a Christmas dinner and your hungry! Maybe you could ask your bf to shoo him away so you can eat?
You have a right to be angry or annoyed about anything you want. Nobody can tell you how to feel and can you really control that anyway? No, you can only control your reaction.



I would tell your boyfriend to ask him to leave, but don't be rude about it or act like you're mad -- that might start a fight. Just tell him that you are working on Christmas and that you want to spend time with him.
yes you have the right to be annoyed and angry you're bf should want to be with you now even more
Yes, you have the right to be annoyed. He probably doesn't have anything else to do. Does he have family? If so, then tell him he needs to leave so that you and your family can have some alone time. If he doesn't have anyone to be with, then show a little compassion, but don't allow this to ruin your Christmas.
You have every right to be angry/ annoyed but no right to be nasty. Be polite and be nice, but you can still feel as pissed as you want.
um, a little christmas is a time to be shared with friends and family-look at it this way. You could sit alone feeling sorry for yourself or you could make the most of the time you have left and actually enjoy yourself with your boyfriend and his friend. Its a win-lose situation. So get up, put on a happy face, and laugh along with them and offer something for your guest to eat. hey if cooking bothers you, make it fun and have them help you. hope I helped. merry christmas!!!!

Casey!!!! xohxohxoh
every feeling is valid. u always have the right to your feeelings. of course u r annoyed! i would be too. people with poor boundaries are annoying
if the night was supposed to be about u and ur bf, then yeah u have the right to be pissed/annoyed. i'd feel the same way. just tell ur bf about it and who knows how he'll react. No i dont think ur being immature because as i said at first if the night was supposed to be about u and ur bf, then yeah u have a right to be pissed/annoyed.
I am assuming you mean you and your boyfriend or roommate.

Explain what you just told us to your friend!!That is completely understandable!! Just tell em that you enjoyed the short visit but since you wont be having family time and turkey dinner tomorrow (for whatever reason) you are having time together tonight. (and throw in that maybe he/she could come over another day to see more pics or whatever)



March up there right now!!!! say it nicely though
Yes can understand were you be upset. I kinda have the same problem. My bf is away alot and when he does come home. I love seeing mmy freinds but want to be alone with him as well.



So this is what you do. Take a deep breath. Go back up stairs and drop hints. Tell them you have to work 3-11 tommmrow and you want to spend the rest of the eveing with your boyfreind. Tell them how you hate that you got to work and wish you could be wth him tommrow but you cant. Tonight is all you got



Tell them you have really enjoyed there company. Give them the hints on leaving. Say I am sorry we only ordered enough food for two. Things like that. Dont get upset and ruin your night. Chill out and get a grip then get them out
It' a little late for this but you should have dealt with this right away by letting the friend know you wanted to have a private dinner with your boyfriend. Now you must decide you next move. You can keep sulking or go back and make something of the evening. Talk it out with your boyfriend later privately.

Merry Christmas
so go down stairs and ask your guest to leave and come back another time firs tell your bf what your about to do then do it